Happiness Is Lonely

if misery loves company

happiness can be lonely

when that moment of great

triumph or accomplishment

arrives and you’re looking

for someone to celebrate with

the hallways seem to empty


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About John White

I've written off and on my entire life. It took years for me to finally take putting words together seriously. Now it's not, nor does it ever feel, like work. Writing daily has become habitual. No day is complete without words having appeared on the page.

Posted on August 11, 2015, in Poetry and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 105 Comments.

  1. Or if someone is there they just won’t understand!

  2. Wow, just when it sounds like you are beginning to doubt yourself, you write this! Great piece!!

  3. Sometimes, unfortunately, people prefer to see us miserable – Schadenfreude and all that jazz. It’s a pity.

    • That may be true. It almost makes me wish that we had never imported that word. lol We have our German brethren to thank for it but it fits far too well here. lol

  4. that’s because they can’t stand to see you doing well when they can’t.

  5. I agree with not having someone to share with and also some souls wanting to see us miserable. I would love to have some happy news to share with myself right now! Things have been tough. I so enjoy writing and blogging with others like yourselves!!! Sierra

    • Thank you, Sierra! 🙂 Sometimes the bad news outweighs the good. Those scales can tip back in the other direction pretty quickly though, thank goodness. It can be hard to find someone to share that happiness with. Especially when someone is dealing with a log of misfortune, they don’t want to know about someone else’s happiness. As I’ve said before humans are strange people. It’s odd how we interact with each other. Here’s to happier times for you! It’s great to meet you!

  6. A @ moylomenterprises

    This is so on point!!!

    True happiness is found when one is content with what one has.
    Misery comes from discontent — complaining about what one has/doesn’t have and wishing one had more or something else.
    So many of us search for happiness (me included) but it’s right under our noses. We simply need to be more appreciative of the blessings we DO have.
    Those who understand this are few, and are eventually the ones who rise above the pack/company of misery.

    This has been a lesson for me this week. Took me a long time to realize this!

    • If there’s a hard lesson to learn then that’s it. Material things don’t equal happiness and that much is true without a doubt. It’s trying to find what actually does equal happiness that can put us in search of that “thing” or that “state of being” that gives us peace and happiness.

      • A @ moylomenterprises

        It starts simply with being alive. That alone is the first gift to be thankful for! Making a list of all the things we’re thankful for is the second step. the rest becomes easier to identify as we become more thankful 🙂

        • Oh, absolutely! I can agree with that! 🙂

          • A @ moylomenterprises

            It takes practice though. Been feeling a bit down for a few days, questioning my purpose, wondering why I can’t find happiness and out of the blue I realized that everything I’d asked for over the years I’d received. I wasn’t being thankful just worrying about the next thing I wanted. So I made the conscious decision to appreciate the blessings I’d been given and a feeling of contentment washed over me quite profoundly. Been sulking over not having a significant other but I’ll be focusing my energy instead on making my life with my little one fun and exciting. When were busy living we have no time for sulking in the corner (at least that’s my new theory) 🙂

            • That’s a good theory. Take what you have do make the most of it. In the meantime, there’s nothing stopping you from seeking more or hoping to take more out of life. It doesn’t owe us anything but I think it’s possible to get back if you’ve put in. Good things can be had but my mindset it more about going to get those things rather than hoping for those things to come. I invest myself to get something back if that makes any sense. lol

  7. It’s always a quiet celebration

  8. Yet we do want to share, just as we want to share in other’s achievements, but with those who are truly happy for us without some resentment which is rare to find. And then there we are lonely again. Great poem.

  9. Price of success?

  10. This is exactly what I fear most about potential success…that it would be isolating…Sometimes it is absolutely terrifying to contemplate…

  11. Then you need to nurture more social activity in your life. People to share things with. Then all that is tougher is more enjoyable.

  12. I loved this, and the title too 🙂

  13. Few words, but big impact. NICE!!

  14. It’s always lonely at the top. Other than the immediate family no one is really happy with some ones success or happiness. Sad but true😕

  15. I’m always there for you just tweet or email or send me a message through the ethers I know I’ll hear you and respond because once a person is in your heart they are there forever.

  16. Happiness is lonely, definitely.

  17. You hit me in the heart!!!

  18. True words!

  19. So true. So simply and beautifully put. Thanks for the follow. Keep writing!

  20. Nycke the Poet

    The sad thing is that’s so very true. For every real accomplishment in life I’ve made there’s only been my kids and my mom present but not one friend. And at times it’s only been me. Love it, thanks.

  21. I simply love how you put some things especially this poem. Love it all!

  22. maybe they are helping someone else to commiserate..

  23. A thought provoking poem indeed that made me reflect upon my own such experiences, realising that I have, unconsciously, turned them into ‘secrets’. Love your posts.

    • Thank you! 🙂 It can easily become a habit to celebrate alone and just keep those highlights of our lives to ourselves. I’ve done that too so I understand exactly what you mean. 🙂 It’s great to meet you!

  24. we people overlook what really makes us happy and successful? When triumphs got on the way after a moment we feel let out then ,the joy of the moment is fleeting why? There is lacking in our lives and we have to search within what is it? hmmmmm…. you are the only one who can answer that. Its very reflective makes me wanna write something thank s for a great post.

  25. Take that moment for yourself and feel proud! Sometimes celebrating by yourself is better than sharing the moment with someone who doesn’t really care.. Great post! 🙂

    • Thank you! 🙂 You may very well be right. Enjoy that moment and celebrate in only the way you know how. Besides, then you can do whatever you want. 🙂 It’s great to meet you!

  26. This is very true. I like this poem most of all.
    Happiness is lonely! Isn’t it? Thank you for following my blog.

  27. Loneliness is not necessarily a lonely thing. I enjoy being alone . You have written about spaces we all need. I can write at night,when all is quiet and I can see the black river throb from my window…

  28. Up until three years ago I never understood how envy works. I just never had to face it. I guess I was really lucky, I just didn’t know it that time. And then came the blast… That’s why I can really relate to this poem! It is a painful truth – sometimes your happyness will show you exactly who are your true friends. It’s harder for some people to be happy with you than to be sad with you. But there is always one or two who will stick around and even if from a distance, they will bathe in your joy as well. 🙂

    • Thank you! 🙂 Sometimes there’s loneliness in happiness due to envy and then there are those times when others are just “too busy” or preoccupied to celebrate a big occasion. It’s unfortunate and sad but true. It’s great to meet you!

  29. its amazing at how someone can just write exactly at how we feel at a certain moment.. you just did john…thanks..

  30. Oh please, share your joy. I’ll catch. 😉

    • Thanks! 🙂 If writing wasn’t so cyclical and based on mood and feelings, I’d throw some joy up here on the blog. lol What I’ve always found odd is that the deeper and darker a poem is, the better it’s received. Odd. lol

      • You’re right. I’ve found the arts to be so subjective. Either people love my art (paintings) or they don’t even think it’s art. They thoroughly enjoy my photography, or think it doesn’t rate. I suppose it might be the same with my writing. But don’t care that much…just write, snap and paint to please my own fine self. 😉 If you’re in the mood to throw some joy around, and want a positive catcher, I’m here. 😀

        • I agree that’s it all subjective either among the masses or especially among the editors of magazines and journals. We all tend to like what we like and dislike what we dislike. It’s simply a matter of opinion. Here’s hoping that we can continue to write, snap or paint for ourselves while also finding a large audience for what we do! 😀 I’ll work on some sunnier writing and hope you catch it. 😉

          • Thanks for the thoughtful reply, John. When it comes to the arts, it’s a cray-cray world! Perhaps tipping the boat in a positive direction in the face of obstinate negativity would be good for society’s moral. And then again, there’s a need for balance, as with anything. It reminds me of the Farmer’s Insurance commercial: ‘it’s a Profound Statement’! Looking forward to seeing some of your further work…

  31. Hello again! I agree with you both. I write to work through “stuff” and the dark depressing ones – get the most hits! I had an acquaintence actually worried about my well being due to some of my angst in my words! I also write, draw, take pictures for my own enjoyment. I am thrilled if any touch but one other soul! I enjoy the discussion. Sierra

    • I suppose it would be natural if someone read your writing and thought something is wrong if it’s really dark. If a writer doesn’t hold back and they’re really forthcoming in what they write anyone might think there’s something wrong. 😉 I enjoy that kind of writing. Of course, if you’ve got other stuff you haven’t shared anywhere stashed in a digital file or a notebook and they see that…well, who knows what they would think. I’m sure if they read everything I’ve written they might consider getting me some intense therapy. lol

  32. oops
    my web

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