Where I Come From
I come from a long line of dysfunction
I come from far too frequent tragedy
I come from a lack of affection
I come from a hard scrabble bunch
I come from places of anger
I come from familial subterfuge
I come from brazen theft
I come from ignorant hatred
I come from narcissism
I come from the better than thou
I come from a place of buried feelings
I come from a place I mostly hate
I come from a place to which
I choose not to return
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Posted on October 31, 2015, in Poetry and tagged DoubleU, John White, Poetry, Where I Come From. Bookmark the permalink. 83 Comments.
Loved this. 🙂
Thank you! 🙂 It’s great to meet you!
My pleasure, John. It’s great to meet you as well. 🙂
🙂
my life put in words no better than I could
Thank you! 🙂 It can be a struggle and family can make it both better and worse. 😉
Pqwerful
Thank you! 🙂
You’re welcome
I see something fishy John! The theme is very dark like most of your recent poems!
Thank you, Hasmeet! 🙂 There have been some recent events to motivate a few of my posts while others were written a while back. I tend to write based on mood and use anything going on in my life or around me to come up with ideas. This one…well it’s dark thanks to one side of my family. Luckily, the other side of the family is pretty close and loving. Thank goodness! 😉
Life is a perfect blend of the dark and the bright aspects 😊😊 I hope you’re balancing it well 😊
You’re so right! Sometimes the darkness can overwhelm the bright but we just have to go looking for it. It’s always there somewhere. I’m balancing but it’s on a tight rope unfortunately. 😉
There are times when we turn slightly vulnerable. But hey! That’s the beauty of life my friend 😊 Keep strong 💪
Vulnerability is necessary sometimes to get words on the page. Happiness is overrated for writers. lol 😉
We must be related…
Thank you! 🙂 That cracked me up! 😉 We’re all related very distantly anyway so… 😉 😀
Did you grow up in my house? That environment in spite of what it lacks sure spawns gifted writers.
Thank you, Karen! 🙂 I suppose it’s possible I grew up just down the street. 😉 We had a split really. One of my parents (not to mention which one) has a great family that’s very loving and the other has a family that snipes and argues with each other so much I would swear they hate each other.
My current life! Double likes
Thank you, Sherina! 🙂 How complicated can family be, huh? I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – just because someone is related to me doesn’t mean I have to like them. Just saying. 😀
I entirely agree with you. Blood is blood but, just because I am cordial, does not mean I am your confidante. .. 🙂
Oh you bet. Blood is thicker than water so just don’t piss me off so much that I want to draw blood. 😉
Are we siblings?
Thank you, Rita! 🙂 Who knows? Maybe not siblings but it sure sounds like we all deal with family issues like these based on the comments. Seems we’re all related. 😀
It certainly does! May some future generation will get this thing right.
Luckily, some of the issues seem to be watered down as the generations come. Other problems persist but over the course of time it gets better. There is hope. 😀
Always hope! Have a wonderful weekend, John. Thanks for the beautiful gift of poetry.
Thank you, Rita! 😀
Hope fully, we can all relate to this powerful piece…especially the final line.
Thank you, Bushka! 🙂 It sounds bad on the surface to want to leave family behind but that’s often the case when someone leaves their hometown behind. They’re also leaving behind family dysfunction.
Indeed……So much encapsulated in the post. 😉
Thanks again! 🙂
Clear-eyed poetic statement that honors past truths and chooses a new way. You are not alone. 🙂
Thank you, Carrie! 🙂 Sometimes going your own way and breaking from those ties is necessary. It’s great to meet you!
Relating…….beautifully written
Thank you! 🙂 It’s a pleasure to meet you!
Reblogged this on KCJones.
Thanks for the reblog!
This is powerful and so true. It all comes down to which path we choose. I needed this reinforcement. Thank you
Thank you! 🙂 Our family may be dysfunctional and truly messed up but we can still choose who and what we want to be. 🙂
What “you” come from might not necessarily be who “you” are… perhaps?
Thank you, Hanne! 🙂 You’re absolutely right. A person may not become a carbon copy of those around them as they grew up. They may even turn out to be a polar opposite in many ways.
Exactly, some does indeed break the ancestral chain, changing the impact and hold the stories growing up have on us and change the pattern of ones own mind… I always finds this very fascinating.
I’ve known people who are exactly like their family and act just like them. I’ve also known some people who are nothing like their family. It can be broken.
It can indeed. Fortunately 🙂
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I recognize these places.
Thank you! 🙂 They are interesting places but they’re not popular vacation destinations, that’s for sure. 😉
I’m with you on that one.
I left home at 19 and haven’t returned since. Have no idea if I ever will, but the very thought conjures up so many bad memories and feelings I can’t fathom it. Perhaps one day but not now… Not yet!
Thank you! 🙂 I’ve remained close to home or family for more than half my life and it can be hard to deal with family even if we care for them a great deal. Hope all is well and improving for you! 🙂
Thx. 🙂
Reblogged this on MyShadowWeighsATonne.
Thank you for t he reblog!
I just moved back into the family environment after a break up. Im trying to deal with a chronic illness and its hard, because my family are not particularly supportive. Its hard.
Thank you! 🙂 Those situations can be made even more difficult with family issues. I can certainly relate and sympathize with what you’re going through. Hope all is well. It’s great to meet you!
your words!
Thank you! 🙂
Reblogged this on llapsed.
Thank you for the reblog!
we all have some past where we dread going back, never return, never relive… very simply you touched cords i think many would relate… great share… 🙂
Thank you, Nitin! 🙂 Maybe it’s because of all the dysfunction that we can never go home again.
Just as long as you keep your self and your children in the right places it will not be like you said some people like the way they were raised and not try to do anything about it but I know that you can, we all have had some type of dysfunction in our lives and family its just that if you want to overcome it you have to do what you need to do for all of your children . Plus your life also. keep it going strong my girl.
Thank you, Cynthia! 🙂 I was raised a family that, on one side, was loving and caring while on the other side there were cold, affectionless family members. It was a strange combination. All of that made me who I am – a moody, happy, slightly ill-content. 😉 It’s great to meet you!
Enjoyed this. A great reminder that even though we cannot change the past, we always have the choice to let go of it and create a better future.
Thank you, Magarisa! 🙂 You’re right! We may be locked into our past but our future is unlocked and open for us to choose.
There is hope in all this darkness; you “mostly” hate where you’re from 🙂 So there is still a ray of light there.
Thank you! 🙂 There’s always hope as long as we keep fighting and trying. This piece is mostly about that one side of the family – though the other side had its share of dysfunction, they didn’t hold a candle to how badly screwed up the other side was/is. But…always a ray of light…somewhere. 🙂
I really appreciate how vulnerable this piece is. I’d really like to see where you are going now that we know where you’ve come from.
Thank you! 🙂 I can’t see the destination yet but I’ll know when I get there. 😉 It’s great to meet you!
Great to meet you as well!
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Love the last line!!! We all are broken in some ways or another but we can choose to work on our own broken! Great poem. 🙂
Thank you! 🙂 Move on with broken pieces or stop off for repairs. 😉
i coome from the same place , beautiful poem, keep inspiring
Thank you! 🙂 I’m finding that I have that place in common with more people than I thought. It’s great to meet you!
great to meet you as well, thats why we have to reach out more to uplift more souls
I agree! 😀
Indeed. Thank you for summing that up so succinctly!
Thank you, JoHanna! 🙂
Always a pleasure to show up and read your excellent writing, JOhn.
Thank you! 🙂 You’re too kind, JoHanna!
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